Support Groups

We know that community is important for parents raising children from hard places and our families have been blessed by our support groups for years. Our support groups train and encourage parents and relative caregivers who are trying to help foster, adopted and other at-risk children establish healthy attachments within the family. Caregivers looking for an opportunity to build friendships with other parents who have similar challenges and objectives are welcome!

Feedback from Support Group Attendees

The thing I appreciate most from attending one of Help One Child’s Support Groups is the peer support!!  Hearing other parents share that they get it and they REALLY have experienced the same craziness (not just normal development stuff parents of typical children are familiar with). The teaching is also excellent and I’ve learned so many great things over the years.

When I started attending the support group I went back because I felt like I wasn’t alone, or just a bad parent. That when I described my son’s behavior, they really understood because they had been there too. That his behavior was different and needed different strategies for dealing with it.

I am so thankful for the teaching tools such as workbooks and videos at our support group. They have been eye opening and life changing. The knowledge and guidance of our leader is encouraging and supportive.  Also, my five kids love going and connecting with the friends they have made. We’ve had the wonderful opportunity to get to know some very special families.

I am so grateful for the leadership (as well as friendship!!) of our support group leader.  I also appreciate the intentional effort that is put into bringing speakers to the meetings to encourage, educate, and equip us to be better parents!!

If you are looking to be apart of a community of like-minded families we hope you will find a home at one of our Support Groups.

Palo Alto

***Support Group taking a break for the month of December***

Date/Time: second Thursday of every month from 5:30 to 7:30 PM
Location: Peninsula Bible Church, 3505 Middlefield Rd, Palo Alto, CA 94306

This group is co-facilitated by Judi Van Elderen ( As a seasoned foster parent of nearly 30 years, Judi brings invaluable wisdom, a prayerful and open heart, and practical experience to the group. She and her husband, Dan, were blessed with the gift of hospitality and often open their home to the group at large for BBQs, not to mention the 67 children they have fostered together. They have 4 birth children as well as 2 adopted children (#13 & #26). Serving alongside Judi is Amanda Dungan. Amanda and her husband Mark, adopted their son through the Santa Clara County Fost-Adopt program.  Amanda is a kindergarten teacher and contributes her expertise in child development and administrative gifts. They both bring a passion for adoption and encouraging foster and adoptive parents as they parent their children.

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Los Gatos

***Support Group taking a break for the month of December***

Date/Time: second Thursday of every month from 6:30 to 8:30 PM

Location: Calvary Church, 16330 Los Gatos Blvd, Los Gatos, CA 95032

Leaders: Alice and Wally Yau, Wendy Lew Toda 


Alice and Wally Yau, and Wendy Lew Toda are all seasoned adoptive parents who understand the joys and struggles of raising children who have experienced childhood trauma.

Calvary Church provides dinner for this support group as a way to encourage the growth of this community of foster and adoptive parents, children, and volunteers. Everyone enjoys eating together from 6:30-7:00, then the children join the volunteers in childcare while the foster and adoptive parents meet from 7:00-8:30.

The support group starts with a time of sharing, then moves into a time of learning a trauma-informed parenting skill, and concludes with a group discussion of what this skill would look like applied to daily life.

The goal is for each parent to leave feeling heard, connected to other parents who understand them, and having a sense of hope for the future. We hope you can join us!

Group meets in Parkside 3. Click here to see the campus map. 

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Morgan Hill

***Support Group taking a break for the month of December***

Date/Time: third Monday of every month from 6:30 to 8:30 PM
Location: West Hills Community Church, 16695 Dewitt Ave, Morgan Hill, CA 95037

This location is lead by Maylin Lema(, an adoptive mom of six. Maylin brings an enormous amount of support and knowledge of the adoption process. In addition she is empathetic towards all families, a great listener, and a huge advocate for this fost-adopt community. For the past several years Maylin has been assisted by Selma Keller who has been described as the heart, hands and feet of the group. She can be found serving the members of this group each month while lovingly listening and supporting them through life.

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San Bruno

Date/Time: second Sunday of every month from 6:00-7:30 pm
Location: New North Church, 300 Piedmont Avenue, San Bruno, CA 94066

We are so excited to announce the launch of our new support group in San Bruno! Come and meet with other parents who are walking the same path as you. There is power and hope in knowing that you are not alone!  There will be time for sharing as well as time for learning trauma-informed parenting skills that will help your day to day life with your child.

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San Jose

Date/Time: first Sunday of every month from 5:30-7:30 pm
Location: The River Church Community, 670 Lincoln Ave #200, San Jose, CA 95126

We are so excited to announce the launch of our new support group in San Jose! Come and meet with other adoptive, foster, and kinship parents who are walking the same parenting path as you. There will be time for sharing as well as time for learning trauma-informed parenting skills that will help you in your day to day life with your child.

A potluck dinner starts off the evening from 5:30-6:00 as a way for parents, kids, and volunteers to connect with one another and build community. After dinner, the kids and volunteers move to the childcare room. Childcare is available by RSVP only. Fill out this form by Wednesday, 5 PM the week prior to the meeting to reserve childcare. Sign up for the email list below to receive a monthly email with the details of the upcoming meeting.

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New Locations

Date/Time: once a month, same day, same time
Location: Local Host Church

Do you wish there was a support group in your neighborhood? Contact us ( to find out how to make this happen for yourself and other foster and adoptive families in your community. Our vision is to have a support group in every city in Santa Clara and San Mateo counties. We’d love for you and your church to partner with us as we work to provide this important resource to foster and adoptive families in their local communities.